Steenkin' New Year's Resolutions...
Happy New Year to all of you...
I can't believe that 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012 is gone.
Time keeps on slippin', slippin', slippin'...
Into the future...
What is it about the past that we each remember so?
Are the memories of good and wonderful things?
... or do we remain haunted by what went amiss?
... things that just didn't turn out the way we wanted?
Is there some form of 'Pre-destination'
that we follow through Life???
Or, are our Lives and our ultimate ends/destinations
more determined by Karma??
Are the events that we experience directly related
to how we have lived our lives and treated others?
Is there really a difference between the two?
I wonder why I selected 'Calvin and Hobbes'cartoons for a post that asks rather serious questions?
What makes a good cartoon be a 'good cartoon?'
I always have enjoyed the messages from comic strips like 'Calvin and Hobbes,' or 'The Far Side'... Some of the creators of such strips have such a wonderful insight into the psyches of our souls, it seems. They seem to capture those fleeting moments and thoughts that we have all experienced...
A counselor that I was seeing after the death of my Dad and during my divorce suggested that I hide a great deal of hurt and pain behind humor... I do suppose that there is a great deal of truth to such a statement.
I fear that my direction has been determined
by the method indicated in the cartoon above...
... that I have just let things happen and I've drifted along with the flow.
Like clouds in the sky...
Like a limb in the river...
Like a fart in a whirl wind...
In 2013, I would like to be more direct in what I desire for the rest of my Life.
I will be more pro-active.
I will take some of my own advice that I talked about at commencement...
So...
What are your goals, desires, aims for
the upcoming
2013?
I love these guys...
Happy New Year!!!
~shoes~
And I thought you wasn't going to make any New Years Resolution???
ReplyDeleteThe cartoon about everyone else needs to change is how my x- husband felt about people.
I think just trying to wing it is a great resolution!
Time to go get drunk!
Happy New Year, Liz...
ReplyDeleteI don't think I called anything a resolution; more so, the decision just to follow my advice for the students... :op
I know way too many people that think everyone else needs to change... and that they are perfect!
Has to make for a sad existence... no?
~shoes~
Yes it is sda when the person thinks they are not the problem.
ReplyDeleteWoo Hoo only 10 more mintes to midnight here in Indiana!!
xoxo Liz
lol @ my spelling mistakes. I blame it on the alcohol
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, Liz...
DeleteAlways blame any and all mistakes on alcohol...
:o)
~shoes~
thanks, I needed this tonight. Diva
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, Teri...
DeleteI understand. I hope all works out for you... *hugs*
~shoes~
I am surprised your counselor would tell u to hide your hurt thru humor... it sounds as if the hurt would be too embarassing to share? I could see journaling your hurt but never masking it thru humor... but that';s just me... all it takes is tact, and common sense for the hurt to come off not offensive...
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, Chris...
Deleteshe didn't mean for me to use the hurt to make humor; she meant that I tend to use humor of any kind... of any sort... to hide behind.,, using it as a mask, if you will.
~shoes~
I do agree with your therapist. I think that you do tend to ::ocassionally:: throw up humor when you are hurting. One could argue that you using that as a shield. However, we all use shields of one variety or another when life gets just a little too painful (I think the pros would call these "coping mechanisms") and this just makes you human. Of all the coping mechanisms out there, humor is one of least harmful.
ReplyDeleteNow, the other one you are using (drifting) is hurting you more. I am guilty of that same one. You don't want to get hurt or make another really painful mistake, so you don't commit to anything or anyone. Sound familiar? But you don't get anything good either. There are always two sides of every coin. If you decide to be proactive, and shoot that rocket of desire of what YOU REALLY WANT into the universe, chances are you might get it. That is some scary shit.
You might be happy. Really scary given that this totally foreign territory and you could really fuck it up. Since you have never actually been here. Yeah, I have given this tons of thought. Or you can stay right where you are in the Land of the Known and the Barren. No one can hurt you here. But no one will love you, either. It's just same old. Same old.
As much as I enjoy your funny posts, I hope you go for it. Shoot out that rocket of desire, decide what you want, and focus on it. Focus. Focus. Focus.
((Hugs)) Happy New Year my friend!!!!
Happy New Year, Robin...
DeleteYou wrote:
"You don't want to get hurt or make another really painful mistake, so you don't commit to anything or anyone. Sound familiar? But you don't get anything good either."
There is so much truth to this...after all, by refusing to make a decision or refusing to act, one actually is making a decision, or is acting... by being willing to accept whatever comes ones way...
After all, decisions are scary...
~shoes~
that is a very common defense mechanism... many of us do it when faced with hurt, an uncomfortable topic we do not want to face... I think defense mechanisms exist to an extent to protect our psych from a hurt that's bigger than we can handle. The first step is to know, to acknowledge it and then move forward. Don't be so hard on yourself. It is ok to not want to deal with a hurt at the moment.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, Ana...
DeleteI've been not dealing with the hurt for about 16 years now... it's time to grow up and move on... no?
I hope that 2013 holds much happiness for you!!
:o)
~shoes~
Yes it is Red. You can do it. I've been in that spot too and once you release it, you wonder why you held on to it for so long. I am rooting for you in this new phase of your life.
Deletemy 2012 eve was NOT GOOD. I went out of my way to ensure that my 2013 eve would be FABULOUS. It was not. I am scared.
ReplyDeleteMy goal... keep myself out of the hospital! Publish something. Anything. Anywhere.
And to continue to attract good people into my life. you are at the top of my list.
I believe we sign up for all this. these obstacles are lessons necessary for soul growth. but hell..... I've been drinking.
Good morning, Green Monkey...
DeleteI'm sorry that your 2013 wasn't better. I guess that there is just so much we can do along those lines.
I think I've always have been somewhat open-minded... my goal is to be more open-minded in the year ahead. I've always believed in a 'Live And Let Live' approach to things, and I don't see that changing. But I guess that there are limitations as to what we can accept from others and what we can let slide...
All in all, drinking isn't that bad, if done in moderation, I suppose...
Happy New Year, you...
~shoes~
I hope you go for it to! I'm expecting a visit. We're all in this together. There are pros and cons to letting life happen to you as well as taking by the horns. I believe there is a time for each. I appreciate you Shoes! Time to kick up your red heels!
ReplyDeleteHey, Sunshine...
DeleteYeah, I think you hit the nail on the head... "Letting Life happen to you..."
I fear that's what I've been doing...
Hmmm... me in red heels... that sounds kinda scary to me... :op
~shoes~
Happy New Years! I *adore* Calvin and Hobbes, and the new years ones you have here are among his very finest.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for you for the new year. As you say, the words from your own commencement address are a good place to start. :-)
Happy New Year, Max!!
DeleteHow's the love affair with the Casino coming along? ;oD
~shoes~
Hey Shoes,I've always thought our lives are per-determined in someway and I do strongly believe in karma.
ReplyDeleteI love the "The Far Side." That type of humor always cracks me up. It's not your typical cartoon strip but rather one hilarious cartoon. Calvin and Hobbes is just as awesome & I'm glad its still appearing in papers. I love the story behind the creation of Calvin & Hobbes-- I read awhile back the creator Bill Watterson was working a job he hated & then began devoting his spare time to what he loved to do most--- cartooning. It paid off quite well!!
Humor is a good thing and sometimes its the only way to get through grief. Ain't nothing wrong with that my friend.
Hi there, Princess...
DeleteI totally agree about humor helping us get through difficult times... Nothing at all wrong with that.
Re: cartoons strips... I continue to be amazed at the insights that some cartoonists have in analyzing viewpoints...
:o)
~shoes~
I don't know about Pre-destination, but there is an order to Nature. I don't have any resolutions because I always have multiple goals all year long. I write them down and replace them when I achieve them. Whenever I achieve something good, there are always people who say, "You're lucky."
ReplyDeleteGood morning, JJ...
DeleteThere's nothing wrong with being 'lucky' every now and then...
I agree about there being an order to Nature...
~shoes~
I rang in the New Year with a proverbial smack in the face... a confession that I already suspected.
ReplyDeleteFuck me.
I want to survive 2013. I graduate with my BA in December. I beginning to realize that it is time to sink or swim... Time to move on for me, too.
Don Henley has been haunting me for about two weeks now. It was while writing this comment that I finally realized what song has been knocking around in my brain.
{{Red}}
Hey you... long time, no see... It's good to see you back around. Kind of reading in between the lines, it looks as if you had a bad experience. Do you receive your BA in December 2013?
ReplyDeleteYeah, sometimes, we do have to just move on. Some people just aren't worth the time or the effort.
I recognize that song that you mention as well.
Happy New Year to you... :o)
~shoes~