For me, it's the memory of the day I had to go to court for my divorce hearing 13 years ago today...
The divorce was horrible... it was ugly... she wanted everything... she was not wanting to settle... so we actually went to court... and I had to testify... way too much... way too long... all of her attorney's questions were designed to humilate me... tear me down... and they did... but I persevered... I guess...
But... I didn't need the 'Lie' to go on... I didn't need the 'Lie' to continue... so I didn't lie... I had decided that everything that was going to happen was going to be honest... and above-board... everything...
Needless to say, I am having a bad hives day... but I was expecting as much...
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I'm not sure I've written about this... there is a married woman here at the university that has been after me for almost 4 years... I fend her off... she goes away... for a while... then comes back... she is persistent...
She is nice enough, I suppose...
The week before Easter, I was leaving home to go to work... and there was a bag hanging from my front door knob... and when I looked inside, there was a ceramic rabbit... I knew who it was from... so... I was thinking... do I acknowledge the receipt of it? No... because if I do that, that would sound as if I was accepting the gift... and opening that door... which I did NOT want to do... So I chose to ignore it...
I was home last night... tinkering around... watching some TV... reading some blogs... taking a couple of phone calls... and I get an email... and it said...
I almost made a terrible mistake tonight...I was at your door,
about to ring the doorbell, then I realized what I was doing and left.
I was upset and wanted someone to talk with, things have been very stressful lately,
but I know they have with you as well. You have made it very clear that you want
nothing to do with me and that's understood. You have my apology.
... and it was from her... the time stamp was 10.04pm...
I have told her and told her and told her that I can NOT be what she wants me to be... I can NOT do what she wants me to do... I have been blunt with her in the past... I have even threatened to talk to her husband about this...
I've been stern without being mean...what do I need to do? Do I need to grab myself by my boot straps, get stern, and tell her to 'GO AWAY!?!?' I guess I've been telling her to 'go away'... and she hasn't taken that seriously...
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I suppose tomorrow will be a better day... I filed my taxes and wrote an extra check yesterday...
I'm thinking that an early Happy Hour might be just what the doctor would order...
Still, I'm sad...
~shoes~
Most men I know would have welcomed the sxual advances and had some fun with her.
ReplyDeleteOh Shoes, you said it yourself, tomorrow will be better. You just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep on going and things will come good again, I promise.
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ReplyDeleteShoes, don't get involve with a married woman! Unless you want to get involve with me, of course ;-) (just kidding)
ReplyDeleteDon't be sad - good attitude and positive thinking can only bring good luck. Cheers to happy hour! xoxo
Continuous unwanted advances is stalking. If she can't take a hint, get tough and tell her the next time you'll report her as a stalker to the police. Married women have more baggage than you need. Stay away from her.
ReplyDeleteBTW: April 14 IS the day before taxes are due. I can attest to that from personal experience.
It sounds like the married woman is entertaining herself at your expense. She knows exactly what she's doing. You've told her "no" more than once and yet she persists.
ReplyDeleteTell her husband.
Married people who pursue others really suck. I am so glad that you told her to fuck off in a kind manner, when most men would just sleep with her. And she knows most men would, so she wants what she can't have, which is you. And I don't think she will stop. Be careful in telling the husband, she may turn it around on you and tell him you were harrassing her. Or the hubby could be a total douchebag and not believe you.
ReplyDeleteIn my last two jobs, a lot of married men pursued me, including coworkers. I would just ignore all of their advances and pretend I didn't know what was going on. Playing dumb and pretending I had plans each time luckily worked for me.
I am sorry that your divorce was so humiliating. My mother did a number on my father, which I still to this day resent her for. No sex is meaner than the other. We are all equally vicious.
I am glad that it's over, but sorry you still carry the scars.
Let it go my friend.... easier said than done I know.
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Yeh married women seem to have the most balls don't they.
ReplyDeleteThe thing about making choices about how you live your life, instead of reacting to what others want you to do for their benefit, is contentment.
ReplyDeleteI know this myself, after surviving 5 years of daily drama from an ex [boyfriend].
The woman stalking you is as one commenter said, entertaining herself. She is living a fantasy life with you as her lead character. Maybe one more NO, then call the cops. Being stalked, no matter how subtly, is a crime.
hope today was a better day shoes.
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@ Good morning, Secretia... I read your most recent entry on your blog... I am sorry to see you go... I hope you will still be around in some form or fashion... :o) Before I enter into any kind of sexual relationship, I do try to look forward to see what type of "bad news" could result from it... and I do try to avoid that!
ReplyDelete@ Spring Flower.. Oh POOT!!!! You took yourself OUT of the pool... :o( HA! You are right... a good positive attitude and a Happy Hour can fix MOST things!!!
@ Catch Her... Yeah... it is stalking... I talked to someone on campus about this, and because she doesnt use campus email... campus phone... that this tends to occur off campus, they felt there wasn't much that could be done...
@ Hi there, Pissy... it sure gets old... and like a boomerang... just about the time I think she's gone away, she comes back...
@ Tuppence... thank you... yesterday was a better day, although I am still bothered by those stupid hives... CALGON!!!!
@Senorita... yeah, those scars seem to be having great difficulty healing... Thank you for your kindest words...
@ Southern... I'm trying!! I promise, I'm trying!!!
@ Bathwater... YES!!!!!
@ Charlene... you are SO right... I do try to live my Life to MY standards... only once have I let myself down... and I guess I fear similar repercussions from anything that could even resemble anything close to what I experienced... Thank you for your comments...
@ Jaime... thank you... yesterday was better... and today even more so... :o)
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Nice way to dish the table... that's funny although you're having a bad time of it all ((((((((((hugs))))))))). Aha a mini car... brilliant litte cars . I have one.
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Awe Shoes don't be sad....Your much better...you will see that in time...I swear I swear..
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