Have you seen the story about the Bourbon Street stripper who was seen leaving the club with two club customers last week?
Body parts that have been identified as hers are washing up on Mississippi Gulf Coast beaches.
According to a news story, "Lockhart's remains began washing up on the Mississippi Gulf Coast hours after she disappeared Her decapitated, limbless torso was found Thursday, then her head and parts of her limbs through the weekend."
Supposedly, the young woman, Jaren Lockhart, 22 years old, had been propositioned by the couple on a prior visit, but she refused to leave the club with them. I wonder what transpired over the interim that caused her to reconsider and leave with them this time?
Two people have been arrested... a male (with sex offender status) and a female.
I can't even begin to imagine the terror... the horror... of the last moments of her life.
My son had been in a fairly long-term relationship with a girl, and I was surprised a few months ago when he said he and one of his buddies were going to a strip club in Memphis... they made a day of it. In our conversation that followed, my son said that things that transpired should not be discussed between a Dad and a son... I interpreted that to mean he had a really good time...
Evidently, his girlfriend wasn't informed that such a trek was planned, because when she found out, she broke up with him soon afterwards. Their relationship had been stressed... maybe he did this so she would get mad and break up. Who knows why we make the decisions that we do.
There was this woman I used to date... we spent a long weekend in New Orleans... and somewhere in the conversation, it came up that she had gone to NOLA with a previous BF... they had gone to a Bourbon Street strip club, and that the fellow paid one of the dancers to go back to the hotel with them. She then said that at some point, she told the dancer to get lost...
I guess I am surprised at the level of trust that can be created on short notice... in a short time. How did that dancer, then, not know if she would be safe? I wonder if this happens on a regular basis in some of the NOLA clubs, or clubs in general... There are things in Life for which I am greatly naive...
I remember visiting my daughter once in NOLA... and finding 'comp cards' from a strip club, along with plexiglass heels and an assortment of wigs...
"Daddy... it's NOT what you think!!!"
...my daughter offered without my having said or asked a thing.
...but I was thinking it...
Imagine going into a strip club and discovering that your daughter is a featured attraction!! AUGH!!!!!
I have dated a woman who claims to have been a stripper... one who had to have been a stripper... and one who should have been a stripper...
Anyway... this isn't about strip clubs... or strippers... maybe it's about expected safety... or maybe being unawares of the surrounding dangers... I mean, there are stories in the news about husbands, wives, teachers, preachers, politicians committing similar horrible crimes.
Can we really trust anyone else with our safety... with our emotions...???
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So many twisted sickos in the world. That story just gave me goosebumps- it's like something straight out of a hardcore horror movie.
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to her family.
Princess... I can't even begin to imagine. She left behind a 3-yo daughter... :o(
DeleteTerrifying...
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The need to make money probably changed her mind. It was a bad choice.
ReplyDeleteThings that go on at strip clubs, you really don't want to believe.
I shouldn't have said that because the next thing I'm going to say is, there aren't many reasons to have 6" clear plastic heels.
Yeah... it probably was the monetary need. I guess I would be surprised at what goes on behind the scenes in a club... It's been a long time since I've been in one, and certainly have no idea about what happens behind the scenes...
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Well, I beg to differ. In my younger years, I had a number of "stripper" type clothing, wigs, collars etc and I certainly wasn't a stripper!! :)
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I wouldn't jump to conclusions about your daughter. Some people like to have fun in the bedroom. A little spice isn't a bad thing!
As far as safety goes...well...I remember in my younger, more stupid years, how we (my girlfriends and I) would go home with whomever....we would never go alone...usually. Maybe I was lucky nothing ever happened.
I did turn down a threesome once when I wasa at a pub - a former patient and her husband....not my style.
I've heard about nurses... ;oD
DeleteFun in the bedroom is a great thing, I'm thinking... and things like threesomes may be one of those things better off as fantasies... it just depends upon the people in the relationship...
Thank you for stopping by... I hope to see your around...
I didn't see any blog links off of your profile, but you refer to your blogs. How does one get there to check it/them out?
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I do know that if you trust anyone with...well, not your emotions per say, but you heart....it rarely turns out well.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter-in-laws sister was a stripper. She is the sweetist girl but seems to be oppressed/depressed. Not an emotionally strong girl. She is living with her boyfreind whom she met at the club. He took her away from that life. I love this girl and wish I could mother her.
yeah, I agree... when ones heart is on the line, one does take a big chance.
DeleteI saw a great definition of Love some time ago... Love is giving someone the power to break your heart, and trusting them not to.
Oops...
That said, Life is hard.
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As a former nude dancer, stripper in Waikiki(1987-1996), this post brings back memories of safety. I was 22 and walked away from the club many times. So scary! I had an angel on my shoulder, for sure.
ReplyDeleteGood to see you again. xxoo
Hey sweetie... yeah, as responsible as wel are for ourselves, we can never speak for what intentions others may have.
DeleteIt's good to see you! :o)
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It's astonishing that people can trust strangers for the most inexplicable, seemingly arbitrary reasons. We suppose that for some, money and validation can be extremely powerful motivators.
ReplyDeleteI heard the latest on this story over lunch... it seems that this young lady and the fellow who is suspected of killing her worked together are another Bourbon Street strip club.
DeleteWhat a shocking story!
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No. The answer is u cannot trust anyone. U think u know someone but really u never really do. U may know parts of them what they want u to see or who they want u to see them as. Everybody is taking a chance on anyone they get close too. Just read the story about the surgeon who killed his ex-girlfriend then himself. Sometimes, u just have to use commonsense when getting to know people. A hooker's life is a very dangerous one all the way around. Mmm--my world gets smaller every day. And who can u really trust on the Internet, Facebook, or even the blogspot. I know I have had some very unfortunate incidents that I wish I'd never experienced. Thank goodness I was not hurt. Sometimes, it is best to be anoynomus. I think that is the way to go nowadays. Just sign me Anoymous.
ReplyDeleteI would imagine that the life of a prostitute is dangerous and risky... I assume that this young lady may have been working in that capacity... I just don't know, and I don't think it's fair to say that, as a generalization, that the two go hand in hand (dancing/performing sex acts)... I don't know... again, I'm rather naive.
ReplyDeleteI agree that we do take great chances when we trust another...
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That's a terrifying story... my heart goes out to her family and those that loved her... Her little daughter... *shudder*
ReplyDeleteStripping is often dangerous and Angels do walk among us. There are all kinds of reasons that a young woman will get on stage – all kinds of reasons why a young woman will step off of the stage. Unfortunately, safety is never the predominant reason she will step off. Lately, and with age and a bit o’ wisdom, even in "normal" situations I've found myself dragging someone along with me when I don't feel safe or if I’m going somewhere new or if I’m meeting someone new.
You said it best: “as responsible as we are for ourselves, we can never speak for what intentions others may have”
As for emotions and hearts? Play it safe and one ends up in one piece but guarded. Take a chance and one ends up with the hopes of living life, finding emotional fulfillment and owning a happy heart. Orrrrr... one ends up with a heart dismembered by perfect strangers that have their own intentions or agenda.. and didn’t hand copies out to anyone else.
Your definition of Love is one of my all-time favorites... minus the “oops”...
robelyn
Hi, Robelyn... yeah, that is a horrible story. I would agree that Angels walk among us, but so do demons, or people who house them.
Delete'As for emotions and hearts? Play it safe and one ends up in one piece but guarded.'
But, isn't that ok, if unguarded, one is going to be hurt for having trusted and believed.
'Orrrrr... one ends up with a heart dismembered by perfect strangers that have their own intentions or agenda.'
Sometimes, they aren't strangers... unless we really didn't know them.
'Your definition of Love is one of my all-time favorites... minus the “oops”...'
Given recent events, that "oops" can be a very important part of that definition.
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At some point we have no choice but to trust. But it sure as hell shouldn't begin in a bar or a strip club. Alcohol makes men brave and women loose. It a social lubricant alright...makes us slide right out from under sense! However, LOL, I'm not quitting anytime soon (speaking of the wine!)
ReplyDeleteSuch a sad story about that young woman.
LOL @ 'speaking of the wine!'
DeleteModeration...everything with moderation.
I'm at the point where I am trusting at arm;s length, if that makes any sense.
How are things going with you?
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"and one who should have been a stripper..."
ReplyDeleteFirst, I laughed at this part of your post but the rest hit home for me right now.
I'm on a date site and believe me!! You find some wacked out men on there and you really have to stick to rules when it comes to meeting these guys for the first time. Still even after tons of questions and pictures and conversations on the phone, you still are at risk when meeting them. I wish I could just find my match so I can be done with this dating game.
I just had a guy ask me to meet him at a gas station at 10pm!!! I told him NO!!!!!!
"... and one who should have been a stripper..."
DeleteBy this, I meant she had the body for it. The one who 'had to have been a stripper' had the moves... I guess it did sound funny in the way in which I phrased it.
Wacked out men... wacked out women... matches are difficult to find.
Meet you at a gas station at 10pm?!?!?!?! That had "Danger! Danger, Will Robinson!' written all over it.
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I am not going to go get into why people do these crazy things they do. Or why people strip or hook. The latter is almost always about the money. As in 99.9% of the time. Why they would be so desperate to actually leave with some of these people if they had a good strip job? IDK. Seems just too dangerous to me. And the story you posted pretty much proves it... horribly sad.
ReplyDeleteBut people meet up with folks they don't know in bars all of the time and leave with them. And some of them die, too. So, the obvious answer here is to not do it. Be smarter. Get to know someone before you stop meeting in public places. I am answering your last question.
And emotionally... I think we all have excellent instincts. I have only ever gone wrong when I didn't listen to mine. So, the answer to that one seems obvious. Listen to yourself. If your internal voice is screaming, "This isn't going to work out well for you. Take a pass. Pass Already."
Hi, Robin... I am a firm believer in listening to that Inner Voice.
ReplyDeleteLife can be scary at times...
How are you doing?? Pretty ok??
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Yes the level of trust in a short time is amazing.. I think it depends on the one who is hurting and in need...I am sure we at some degree under alcohol or melancholy may trust and then later on wished we hadn't.... The story u posted is sad, the girl being so young and VULNERABLE... that is the word that fits.
ReplyDelete'Vulnerable'...
DeleteYes, you are exactly right about that...
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I was going to say something flip about those great shoes, but really, this is so serious, and the story of the dismembered stripper is so haunting. I think it's human nature to trust. It's sad that we were made so trusting and yet so many are made so full of rage and venom. Great post Mr. Shoes. I'm literally speechless right now.
ReplyDeleteYes, Sandra, that is a rather horrific story... I can understand how someone could become aroused by the sensuality of a 'different sexual encounter' and such, but... to risk one's Life.
DeleteI guess like anything else, most of us probably think, "it can't happen to me"...
Thank you for your comment...
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My heart goes out to that strippers family. That was a gruesome way to die. I would like to know what convinced her to go. Did you hear about that guy from Montreal? He did something similar to a body and then mailed the body parts, after video-taping the event. Sick and twisted.
ReplyDeleteI know, Marnie... was it the enticement of making the extra money?
DeleteNo, I'm not aware of the story of the fellow in Montreal... that is just sick. But... the world is full of people like that, I fear.
How are things in your world??
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Thought of you and this post when I saw this: http://gifs.icanhascheezburger.com/2012/06/12/funny-animal-gifs-kitty-bar/
ReplyDeleteHi there, Catch Her....
ReplyDeleteLOLOL @ the link... I love the comments added to that site...
How are things with you?
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this one hits close to home. bless her soul, the poor thing.
ReplyDeleteGood morning, you...
DeleteYeah... this is so sad... so horrific.
I don't understand people at times.
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Terrifying story! The scary thing however is that girls leave with punters all the time. Not all girls and not every night but when enough money is offered, minds will always be persuaded...
ReplyDeleteReally makes me cringe thinking about some of the men I've met in the clubs who've offered money for my company - what did they really want?
Good morning, O...
ReplyDeleteI can imagine... most of the time, I would imagine that the ground rules are established and pretty well followed... and then something like this happens.
It just has to happen once.
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