So...
She calls me this evening... just to see how I am doing... tells me what she's been up to at work... how she feels taken advantage of... stuff like that... asks about how my holidays were... how my family is... how my kids are... how I am... all of that kind of stuff...
She tells me that she enjoys talking to me.. that she always enjoyed that... that I am a wonderful guy... I wish I had the fucking guts to ask her then why did she tell me all of the things she did and then dump me unceremoniously... but I didn't... I'm an idiot...
So...at some point she said she would like to be able to talk to me more often... I told her I could do that... so I made some off-the-cuff comment about how the next time, I'm in her city, maybe we could do lunch...
... and she says, "no... I am seeing so-n-so... and he's very possessive... etc etc etc..."
So I say nothing more... and there's this great quiet lull...
And finally I tell her...
I have something in the oven that seems to be burning... and I need to go... then I thanked her for calling... and I ended the call...
What I need... is someone... a female... to explain to me what happened here... or what's happening...
I don't understand... I honestly don't understand...
I didn't ask for this... I didn't do anything to deserve to have this scab ripped off....
I was healing...
FUCK!!!!!!!
WHY????
~shoes~
She needs someone to play second string so if the current one doesn't work out, she's got a back-up until something better comes along. Run.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds to me like she was feeling a bit 'vulnerable' for whatever reason and just testing the waters. Maybe she wants flirting - but it's really just using you to assuage her ego imo...
ReplyDeleteTime to cross her off the list baby.
xx
She wants to use you for her pleasure when it's convenient for her.
ReplyDeleteSecretia
Girls they have no idea what she is doing so don't even listen. She just wanted attention. you are a nice guy you gave her attention. She doesn't want to date a nice guy.
ReplyDeleteShe is probably dating a dick but she misses the attention. She will always go back to you for the attention nothing more. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME.
And don't be so nice for once it feels good just to say, "why should I care".
Red you need to stop answering her calls. She's being a selfish, whiney bitch. She only did this because to her, you represent comfort and safety and she knows what to expect. She did not think of your feelings at all. Return that favor.
ReplyDeleteI think that she is a bitch. She was hoping to call you and hear that you were doing terrible. She wanted you to be all pitiful and crying, and beg her to come back. She just wanted to feel good about herself....she's a looser. Move on to someone that will respect you.
ReplyDeleteI just don't know why she bothered to call... I had made a great deal of progress with this... Hell... even Jan called last Monday night, but the difference I guess, is that I am over her...
ReplyDeleteIt feels like it's back to Square 1... :o(
Thank you all for your thoughts... I appreciate them...
~shoes~
Well, it seems everything's been said as I read the comments above. Yeah, some wounds open up easily and it feels like she's pouring salt on them. However, you're not stupid.
ReplyDeleteHope you're doing better. ((hugs))
No... I'm not stupid... but I do dwell on issues... it took me way too long to exorcise Jan... she would disappear... and then come back... I am not going to tolerate the same with Laura... I'm just not...
ReplyDelete~shoes~
Hey, I know I'm late in pitching in here and it does appear that everything you need to hear has been said. So this is superfluous: rent Swingers.
ReplyDeleteI've been that stupid girl and I regret who I've hurt. So let me say I'm sorry to you for her and (him).