Or...
WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!
Look.. on a good day, I'm a fairly average person...
Average looks...
About the nicest trait I have going for me is that I am a nice guy...
... I do have my Mother's beautiful eyes.
But that is it.
I don't perceive myself to have ego issues...
I've held my job at the university for twenty-five years...
I've received a few honors along the way...
I like bow ties and cowboy boots...
... and cowboy hats and fedoras.
I have a great deal of fun with the way I dress.
I'm nice to people.
Anyway, my stalker is back.
Saturday, I was leaving my house to go shopping... I needed to run some errands. As I'm walking to my vehicle, I notice this car driving by... and it's her. I've written about her in the past.
I go ahead and get into my vehicle... and look... she has stopped at the four-way stop sign just down from my house... and is just sitting there. So... I am waiting for her to drive away... and she just sits there. Finally, I decided to leave and drive the opposite direction. She is still at the stop sign when I reach the intersection where I want to turn. This really annoys me to no end. I thought I was rid of her. Has she been watching me... following me... keeping tabs with me the entire time?
Rose, the stalker
'Two and a Half Men'
I am angry about this.
I don't necessarily feel victimized by this,
but I am greatly uncomfortable.
I am going to start paying attention to what is happening around me... and start taking notes... and documenting with my phone camera. My next step, I guess, will be to consider a restraining order, if she is indeed following me. Sure, there are a ton of reasons why she could have been driving down the street where I live... but there isn't many reasons as to why she would sit at the stop sign and watch.
If I feel this compromised... and I'm a guy, I can only imagine what a woman must feel when this kind of mess happens to her.
There is more to this story, but this is enough for now... I am still processing the other event.
~shoes~
Life is short. Don't spend too much time or thought regarding this woman. Bottom line is until she hurts u or breaks onto ur house or vandalizes ur property not much the police can do. She is obsesses with u and u can't change that. U will just have to deal with it.
ReplyDeleteI finally understand ur pain and depression about death. Patches died August 2012. Buttons passed on Monday. I had to make the decision. And I know I did the loving and humane thing. However, my thoughts r that I made the decision to stop a beating heart. And it is literally killing me to know that--
Miss Stormy, I was in your shoes awhile back.. and yes it does hurt.. My terrier just gave me a look of ' its about time, stupid'... and that was enough...somehow animals just know. ((HUGS))
DeleteHi, Ms Stormy... Iam so sorry about your pup, Buttons... People and pets, when they leave us, do leave a large hole in our lives.
DeleteIn spite of how you feel now, you made the right decision for your Buttons... he understands what you had to do...
As for the other, I understand what role law enforcement can play in this mess... it's still unsettling.
~shoes~
Sweet little Buttons :( Shoes, I once has a stalker.... a woman who reminded me of Fred Flintstone. I tell yah, I can't watch that show anymore. She said: "I think you want me." I said: "Think again." I thought that would make her change her mind. I know...
DeleteWow and I thought I was the only one stalking you. Lol
ReplyDeleteLiz... Smart ass...
DeleteHAR!
~shoes~
I agree w/Miss Stormy... take it from someone who was bugged by an ex bf... yep.. he kept sending post cards, letters, etc.. what stopped him finally (after 4 years ) was when I put 'refused' on the envelope... i've done it in the past and he ignored it, but somehow this time it must of sunk in... The Postmaster told me to do that.. and he said to photocopy the envelope and keep a record of it ...
ReplyDeleteChris... this woman would sign up for my classes... and just sit and watch... she was always finding excuses to come into our office suite. She has even come into my yard and has left notes on the door of my vehicle... I have been firm... I have been mean with this woman... and I thought I had resolved it. Evidently, not...
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Yikes!! Be careful and yes document everything!
ReplyDeleteHey you...
DeleteI have... everything.
~shoes~
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ReplyDeleteLet me start with all of the "technical" information first... One of the people I follow just a wrote a novel involving stalking. That generated a blog hop wherein people shared their stalking stories, if they had them. I learned a lot reading those posts. Yes, women are stalked more often (your stats are right), but men are more frequently killed by their stalker. I guess that proves that a woman who stalks truly is a psycho bitch. That isn't to say that men have never harmed or killed their victims... the stats just aren't as high.
ReplyDeleteI then went back through your old posts using "stalker" to see what else you've written about this person. Do you have two stalkers or just the one? This the one married to Bizzaro Shoes? You also described someone who worked at the university... same person???
If so, this has been going on a LONG time. She is CRAZY. I would go to the police NOW and file a report so that you have it on record. Bring up the Whole History with this person. They might not be able to DO ANYTHING, BUT they will let you know how best to proceed from this point. No one should have to live with a crazy stalker. It is beyond unsettling. It is downright scary. She is not right in the head.
Please be careful.
Hi, Robin...
DeleteDo you know if the blog hop still exists? I would love to read it.
That you state that men are more often killed is alarming and disturbing. I need to keep this in mind. I had not thought about that as a possibility, but now, that sheds a different light on things.
You are observant... a second one may be in the making... that is what I was alluding to with that last statement in my post.
Bizarro Shoes... HA! I had forgotten about that... I need to go back and re read that...
Yes, she works at the university... and yes, this has been going on a long time.
Here is the scary part of all of this, Robin... her husband is a police officer...
Yes she is crazy and is NOT right in the head.
I will be careful.
~shoes~
you mean someone besides ME is stalking YOU! okay, now I'm angry! I'll take care of things don't you worry.
ReplyDeleteHey Monkey Girl!
DeleteI have never viewed you as a stalker, Green Monkey Girl... but, yes, I will let you handle it... ;o)
~shoes~
I'm riding my pig from CT to 'Sippi, so it may take me awhile but rest assured, I'm on my way!
ReplyDeleteI hope that your pig has on its snow shoes and ice cleats... they are going to be needed...
Deleteand you need to wear a coat!!
Love, Shoes...
Kalei's Best Friend--thank u for ur kind words. Buttons' death has hit me harder. Not because I loved him more but because I had to make the decision to "stop his beating heart". Patches and Pepper both went on their on. I know that I have love for another puppy and I will add another one to my family of pups in my lifetime and that will somewhat ease my heartache. Last night, I was back at Coffeehouse and several people dropped by to check on Buttons. They had not been told yet so I had to relive the story several times over last night. I barely made if to my car after closing and the tears just wouldn't stop.
ReplyDeleteStalker--I do believe this is the one that works at the University, is married to a cop there, and took a class from Shoes if my memory serves me correct. Yes. One can document and that would be a good idea for Shoes to "build a case". However, at this point, she has not "broken the law". And until "someone breaks the law" nothing can be done about it. This one seems rather harmless though from past experiences. Seems she just wants glimpses of Shoes. Correct me if I'm wrong. At this point, Shoes could not even get a restraining order because she has done nothing to warrant one. Driving down his street, leaving presents on his doorstep, etc.
Sometimes in life people get attached and attracted to us usually because of their character. Heaven help us if she ever finds out Shoes' has a blog spot. Ouch!!!
It is a nuisance for sure. I had a stalker myself when I was 21-years old. I moved back in the day to a city far away from him and nothing was in my name. But that was before the Internet so it is not like it is now.
Sorry Shoes for the long blog here. Just information for those whom have stalkers. The victims never seem to have rights. Blah--
But what can u do--nothing really but hope she is not the "killing" kind of stalker which she seems to not be from what you've blogged about her.
It took me 5 years to even open myself up to another pet... For me, dogs, cats and just animals in general, I can't get enough of... They are more trustworthy and unconditional than humans... and yep, I've been' burned'..
DeleteIt's ok, Stormy... you need to talk about your pup... what you said about reliving the loss over every time you re-tell the story is exactly right.
DeleteAlthough this woman hasn't broken the law, and I understand that, there is something sinister about her behavior... She just won't take 'no' for an answer.
~shoes~
OK, that's all well and good and feel your concern but you're a scientific kind of guy so the bottom line is where does she fit on the Crazy-Hot Line (see YouTube below)!
ReplyDeletehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDTxn7CBS30
As you know anything above the Efficiency Frontier is arbitrage. If she is arbitrage don't avoid her, date her! If below - RUN! :)
Oh no, Ryan... this one has papers... she's certified... rumor had it that she had moved on to another fellow. Evidently, he didn't 'take'
DeleteThe Crazy Factor over-rides anything... ANYTHING...
She's crazy...
~shoes~
Yikes! Sorry Shoes. Some folks are just plain nuts. Big hugs to you as I've no advice except be careful and document everything!
ReplyDeleteHi there, Dixiebelle...
DeleteShe's most definitely nuts...
I am noting everything... but I have to start paying better attention...
Is this ice and snow getting up into your neck of the woods??
~shoes~
Excuse us Shoes--hahaha--
ReplyDeleteWhile Kalei and I take over this blogspot for a while with memories of our pets.
Kalei's Best Friend--
Well emotionally I am ready for another pet. Reason is I always have room to love an animal especially a dog in need. I got Buttons and Patches 3 months after Pepper's death. And when Patches passed, I had Buttons to comfort me. I think that is one of the issues right now. I go home to a studio that is empty other than myself. But soon I will get another puppy. God will place one in my life and I will feel joy again.
Ok so we don't totally take over Shoes' blogspot with puppy talk I will tie in a puppy to stalking.
One might feel more comfortable at home with someone whom stalks them by having a puppy at their home. That way u will always know when someone is on the property when u are unaware of it.
How about that tie in? Shoes' if u go get a puppy then I will puppy sit when u go out-of-town and what not.
My friends are talking of letting me puppy sit lots of their pets so I won't be alone.
Ok enough about my issues.
I'm sorry back to the stalking advice and words of wisdom.
Maybe if you stop being so charming and nice, women won't fall for u. No they fall for bad boys too.
Oh well--I have no more information.
I am most definitely NOT the bad boy kind of guy... I don't find myself charming... but I am nice...
DeleteThere are so many homeless pups...
~shoes~
Kalei's Best Friend
ReplyDeleteOops--
Yep know about that "being burned" stuff too.
A puppy is the best roommate, friend, companion etc.
Was talking to a coworker as we were leaving the office yesterday. His puppy passed in November. He just got another one. I was like he gets to sleep with u right. He said nope in the kitchen in a kennel. Never slept with a dog in my bed. I said u don't know what u are missing. Pups are the best snugglers.
Ok. Really done this time.
No more comments from me. Did not mean to take over this much space. It is counseling for me right now. I apologize.
I don't think Jim minds..anyway, I wasn't ready because I also had to deal w/my husband's death.. and I swear, I think our dog died of a broken heart- even tho she was 14,...for 2 months she would run to the door whenever the bell rang or perk up when she heard a male voice... yep, death, lawyers seem to put wanting or even thinking about a fur baby on the back burner... Now I am done, Jim...
DeleteChris.... it's perfectly ok... HA!!
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And of course, you've been 'distracted' this past period, so maybe she has been stalking you even when you weren't aware...
ReplyDeleteHi there, Stephanie... yes, I have been busy with Scooter and his issues... and taking care of my classes and students.
DeleteI am concerned with exactly what you stated... that she's been around and I haven't been paying attention to my surroundings.
I need to be more attentive.
How are things in your world, dear?
~shoes~
I'm not familiar with your other story about this so all I can say is do exactly what you said and get the license plate. Carry pepper spray or a gun! Definitely pay attention to your surroundings wherever you go. I think a woman stalker is just as dangerous as a male version.
ReplyDeleteHi, Barbara... I don't think you are over-stating anything... I need to be more alert...
DeleteHow are you??
~shoes~
Kalie's Best Fruend--
ReplyDelete"Crazy Wimins" was a good title for this blog. Hahaha--
I visited ur blog and signed up for it. We can take our conversations there. Very interesting and pretty pics. A fellow dog and animal lover. I am happy we had this conversation. So sorry about ur husband. And I definitely think our pets r in tune with us.
Wow! That's really scary and unsettling and wtf??? Is she insane? Be careful, friend. It's a crazy world we live in! On a lighter note, you wear fedoras? I think men who wear fedoras are sexy! :)
ReplyDeleteBut I would never stalk you. ha!
DeleteHi there, Yvonne... she is unnerving... unsettling... I don't even like to be in her presence...
DeleteYes.. I've discovered fedoras... and I've found a style that I like...
LOL @ you would never stalk me...
~shoes~
Life is not simple. And I have not experienced a close relative dying other than my pets. If I feel this upset, I wonder what will happen when my parents and siblings die. It was hard to watch Buttons stop breathing. I mean really tough. I do think that one should be with a loved one if they pass if at all possible.
ReplyDeleteU know I already get to see the other side of the stalking issue. And truly other than moving she probably won't stop. And a piece of paper does not help. We all know that. Unfortunately, that is the way it is.
Would u believe I took the death of my dog harder than anything? and yes I did love my husband.. I guess its because I feel that animals are so 'innocent', they don;'t expect much of humans, just love, feeding, care... they don;'t put conditions on us or themselves.. Humans know (or should know better, after all they supposedly are at a higher intelligence)...When I lost my grandmother, her age was a factor... I was closer to her than my mother.. yes, I was shocked at her passing but my logical side understood that at 96 yrs. she lived a full life.. and it was time for a rest.
DeleteStormy wrote: "I wonder what will happen when my parents and siblings die."
DeleteLife is a learning experience... the first really significant loss I ever faced was the death of my Mom... my Mother was the most important person in my Life...
My Mother had pulmonary fibrosis and died a horrible death... and she died with such grace and dignity. I've always felt that my Mom showed her children how to die.
My Mom's death made understanding my Dad's death a bit better, but I wasn't prepared for all of the nonsense and chaos that occurred afterwards from the family... especially from my oldest sister.
From that sister's standpoint, she had been so close to death the past two years... so that when she did finally die, I was prepared for that... and I was prepared for the nonsense from the family as they started their bone-picking process (fighting over her property)... I was even prepared for the family member that told me that he hated me...
We learn from Life...
~shoes~
Chris...
DeleteAnimals.... pets... they love us unconditionally... except for maybe cats... ;o)
Meanwhile, people, which are supposedly of a higher level of intelligence, do mean things to others... say snide and crude things...
So I can understand the loss of your grandmother having a greater impact. I was fortunate to have had a loving Mom... I have discovered that not everyone has a loving Mom... I didn't understand that in my younger, more naive days...
... and the dogs that I once owned... were always glad to see me when I came home... always...
~shoes~
Obviously I am not sleeping well. This is bringing me closer to God though--
ReplyDeletePoint her in MY direction Shoes. One menacing glare over the top of my glasses has scared the holy crap out of many a student. She's no exception!
ReplyDeleteJust joking - take care and follow the great advice that your blog friends have given you. Thinking of you, nice guy xxxxxx
Hi there, Ms Leah...
ReplyDeleteThis woman makes me nervous... very nervous...
How are you today??
~shoes~
Well, we went from Crazy Wimim stalking Shoes to death of our loved ones (human and animals).
ReplyDeleteKalei's Best Friend--I totally get what u are saying. I have said the same thing "Our pets can't explain what is wrong or how they feel. We have to be very in tune to what is going on with them. I "diagnosed" Buttons and Patches over eight times with bladder stones before the stones reached their wee wee's. My vet said I must be psychic. I was just very in tune to their body gestures and moods. I could tell u some stories about my pups. Stories that make me smile and make me cry. My pups taught me how I should treat others. I'm still working on that too--
A good book that I keep in my purse. "Tales from the Dog Park--What Your Dog Can Teach You about Life" by Melinda Dille. I go to this book often especially when I am not being so nice to people.
Shoes--That first night with out Buttons. I came home and took a nap and I woke crying just crying. It was the scene that played out in real life but the injection didn't work and he kept lifting his head and looking back at me. Oh I can't tell u how bad that hurt me. I text my stepmom and said I was having a rough time. She and my dad called and were on speaker phone with me for over two hours trying to comfort me. And the one thing I said to them is "What am I going to do when I lose one of y'all?" I just can't imagine. I can't. I know that God will help me through but I've always had such a hard time with death. Even though I know that there is an afterlife, it is just unbearable for me thinking of them being in the ground and just not here with me anymore.
And I remember all ur blogs about ur mom, ur dad and ur sister's deaths. And how very hurtful that ur mom's death was to u especially when u went to ur wife and she was writing or working on the computer and just seemed to have had no compassion for u and the loss that u felt.
The one thing that has helped me is that it is very obvious I am still reeling from Buttons' death. And my friends/coworkers do pull me close and hold me and tell me that I did do the right thing and that Buttons is not suffering. Sometimes, we just need to hear those words whispered in our ears and then to have someone hold us.
I will heal. And I will smile again. I still look for Buttons when I come home and then I remember "He's gone. Oh he's gone."
Well, forgive me for being such a nuisance on this blog. It really has helped me to blog about it. To talk to people. And even when I relive the story and cry all over again it helps. It truly helps. And my friends and coworkers have such compassion for my loss. Even though they do not love Buttons the way I did, they love me. My dad whom never met Buttons and does not like dogs even cried. He cried on the voice mail he left me. And he cried when I first spoke to him. I was very surprised. But he was crying for me and the hurt I felt.
Oh my--I'm so sorry for taking up so much of this blogspot. Truly it was not my intention.
Good morning... I just kind of disappear from here... kind of like what I think I do in 'real life'...
DeleteI am sorry about Buttons... and our animals DO become a big part of our Lives... we love them when they go away...
Animals love us unconditionally...
~shoes~
Shoes: I can't believe only Robin suggested calling the police. Call the POLICE or you're crazy!
ReplyDeleteJJ...
DeleteI am crazy... but as Stormy said below, this stalker's husband is a cop... I fear those ramifications as well...
~shoes~
Well, JJ.
ReplyDeleteHer husband is the police there and it's a small town.
So---