Wednesday, October 6, 2010

"Happy Birthday, Mom..."

On this date, October 7th,  in 1912, my Mother, Evelyn Ruth Ohl, was born...  Mom would have been 98 today...  Mom was born in a small German settlement in South West Illinois... Mascoutah.



I've posted these photos of my Mom before... I need to get more.  
The sister who screwed us all over when Dad died is the 
self-named care-taker of those kinds of things.


I can remember my Mom holding her purse 
exactly the way she is  holding it in the photo above.


My Mom loved Life as much as anyone I've ever known... I can't even begin to express how large of a hole there is in my being because of her loss.. because of her not being here...


I miss you, Mom... each and every day...
With each and every day that passes,
you just get further and further away from me.


I hope you know how many times 
a day I think of you...

I do love you so...

Your son...

~Jim~

16 comments:

  1. Your mother was very pretty ! It really sucks that you got screwed over by your own family.

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  2. Oh, Sweetie, she was such a beautiful woman.

    I have no doubt she knows how much you loved her and how much you miss her still.

    Happy Birthday beautiful Angel.

    xoxo
    ~vk~

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  3. My mom's mom came from around that area and she'd be about 98 right now too. Mascoutah resonates...Tough life out there on the farms.

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  4. Memory keeps you close. Our loved ones gone from this world exist as long as their memory resides in those who love them.

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  5. I've said it before, but I'm gonna say it again...

    I'm thinking that she's super proud of the man that you are - and that she pats herself on the back for YOU - and extends her arms in love all throughout your days. That YOU are her pride and joy - and she loves your soul, your heart... all of you.

    She's always with you - inside of you... a part of you.

    xoxo
    robelyn

    p.s. I'm ALSO thinking that you look just like her. xoxo

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  6. Beautiful woman. I love the old pictures.

    Maybe you can get pictures from your sister and have copies made. Our family did that so that everyone would have copies of all the special photos of our elders.

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  7. (((HUGS)))) to you, Shoesies. Your Mom was a beautiful woman, apparently both inside and out. It's wonderful that you have such fond memories of her. You are a lucky man. When my ex's mother passed I remember writing in the card I got for him that no matter how old we are our parents are still our parents and we their children. It's a huge loss. She, however did a great job of raising you. Be sad but be proud.

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  8. What a beautiful lady :0) I lost my father so I understand how you feel. She is watching over you, that is for certian.

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  9. I know that she feels further away, but I am not convinced that is true. I really do believe that our loved ones who have passed on do watch over us from The Other Side. I think that we make trips to The Other Side in dreams and talk to those people. Sometimes we remember fragments of those dreams and sometimes we don't. We wake up and think, "I dreamt about Mom last night." I think you actually visited mom and had a lovely chat. That says to me that mom isn't gone. You still talk. The fact that you don't remember it clearly is not the point. Your spirit remembers it vividly. The inner you. Whatever it was that you needed from mom was gained. Maybe it was just encouragement. Who knows? But I totally believe. Kind of like that song I posted to you last week. Or maybe the week before. I Believe. "The people who don't see the most, see that I believe in ghosts. If that makes me crazy than I am." One thing you can do is to start praying to remember your next contact with a loved one has passed over more vividly. You can make it a generalized contact (mom, dad, Robert, etc.) or a specific person. You can pray that when someone comes around you that they give you a specific sign that they are there. I have a grandma that lets me know she is around by her perfume. I always know when she is with me. There was a fellow who was one of my customers whose wife passed. He said he always knew when she was around because he smelled fresh coffee brewing in their home even when he hadn't made any. You can ask for these things. That isn't to say you will get them...lol. But you can ask! My other grandma comes to me in dreams a lot. No smells or other signs of her just hanging out. People will often find a lot of change in their home if they have someone from The Other Side trying to give them a sign that they are watching out for them. Pennies from heaven sort of thing. All of this is me saying that the passage of time is making her seem more gone when the reality is that she loves you and is still looking right over your shoulder. That is what moms do. You couldn't ditch her if you wanted to.

    On a different note, I love doing the Thursday thing. Yes, it can be a lot of work. It is easier if I find blogs that providee inspiration throughout the week. That way I am more or less ready when Thursday rolls around. On a completely unrelated note, when you talked about your vacation I was really hoping you would make it to Sedona. You didn't. I noticed that you have mentioned it again since. Are you feeling compelled to go there?

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  10. What a great tribute to a beautiful mom!

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  11. Great job. Happy birthday Momma Red Shoes.

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  12. Your mother was a very pretty woman!

    Pearl

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  13. Just turn up at your sister's with a scanner and a laptop and get her to let you scan every picture in sight.

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  14. Thank you all so very much. I loved my Mother so... I do believe she is the person most responsible for how I developed as a young man and as a responsible person.

    Thank you for your wonderfully kind words.

    ~Jim~

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