I posted here the other day about the feeling of dread... that something was getting ready to happen... I wasn't sure what... and that all I could do was wait and see...
I think it's obvious that what happened here on Tuesday concerning a colleague... and what happened last night... confirmed my uneasiness about something being amiss in my world...
I've posted about the way a colleague lied to me about something important... something very important... I will have to deal with it... and handle it the way I see best...
However, what happened last night caught me even MORE off guard...
I've remarked several times in some posts... and in some comments to some posts... about how my high school girl friend had found me on 'Facebook'... and how we reconnected...
The first few times we communicated, it was strictly on the level... 'how are you?' "what's happened in your life since 'back then?' " and things like that... at some point, the emails, text messages, and subsequent phone calls started getting a little flirty...
One of the first things I asked of her... was... "Are you married?"
"No... I had married so-n-so... and we are now divorced... ," she said...
So... we continued to talk... flirt... and so on... and then the conversation turned to my coming out to visit her over our Spring Break... which is next week...
And we started tentatively planning some things to do...
I noticed over the past three or four weeks, that she's been more accessible sometimes... and impossible to reach other times...
And then she tells me last night...
'Shoes... we are separated... not divorced...
and...
We still live together...'
FuckettyfuckfuckfuckfuckFucketty
Fuck!!!!!
Fuck!!!!!
O.K... once again...
Why lie about something like this?
WHY??
WHY???
WHY????
I simply do NOT get it...
My professional integrity, I feel, was compromised on Tuesday...
My personal integrity feels compromised today...
I have planned my itinerary for my Spring Break trip... I will keep it... she just won't figure in... I am disappointed... greatly disappointed...
This kind of behavior is one of the reasons we broke up the first time... and as I've read somewhere before... 'that was why you two broke up!' There always seems to be a pattern...
Poot...
~shoes~
I've heard that one before. You are not suppurated if you live in the same house, sorry.
ReplyDeleteAnd I have had my fill of lies to, no matter what the rationale
Aww Shoes, I'm sorry that you're having a rough time at the moment. Keep your chin up though and good things will find you , I'm sure of it.
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i've heard that one too. but there are so many people here who will go that route because they can't afford to live separately.
ReplyDeletedon't think about the liars... unless you're thinking of them in fishnets ;)
Separated but living together means "I'm married" unfortunately.
ReplyDeleteHowever, Jaime has a point, what if it's a financial move? She can't get into something serious until then, and as long as you know about it, and plan your heart accordingly, I don't see why you can't meet for a drink.
The moral of the story is that women and men tell the same kind of lies, mislead each other the same way, and have the same basic needs.
ReplyDeleteSecretia
I don't often disagree with Secretia, but I do here (sorry! lol)... it doesn't always have to be about lies and misleading each other. If this was true for everyone, the world would be a sadder place.
ReplyDeleteBut ask yourself this: what is she to you, what does she represent? She has lied before. She does it now. She won't change. But if it's only about seeing an old friend and being on your way after that, it shouldn't affect you so much, no?
(that's just based on what I've read, because I don't know the entire story)
Aw, man, I'm sorry about this! So glad you found out, though before you were actually THERE!! That's just terrible! Go have a blast without her!!
ReplyDeleteThis happens to me all the time, where I have to practically grill men just to make sure that they are not married.
ReplyDeleteI am just glad that you actually found out before the damage was done.
Good riddance.
I feel your pain. When it rains it pours !
Fuckity-Fuck-Fuck baby indeed...
ReplyDeleteDammit - so sorry.
The good news is ALL your bad karma is done and out of the way for the rest of this year!!!
@ Bathwater & JenJen... I guess my thoughts are... that if she told me she was divorced... and they aren't... and that they are separated... but living together... that they are probably still 'very married...' Just my gut feeling...
ReplyDelete@ Jaime... I guess it could be that way... but why didnt she say that at the beginning...???
@ Tuppence... thank you... I am going to remain upbeat about Life.. its good... just been some crap thrown on the road here this week... but it's still good...
@ Secretia... I guess Im no longer sure what her basic needs are... you know??
@ Spring Flower... yeah... I think my road trip will be fun... I'm not sure... I don't think a lot of things we talked about will happen though... I just don't think so...
@ Anything Fits... yeah... I am going ahead with things... I will visit Girl Shoes in New Orleans for a few days... head out to San Antonio for a couple of days... then to Austin for a couple of days... and then maybe through Dallas before heading back to the flatlands of Mississippi... I will have fun... :o)
@ Thank you, Senorita... just some basic honestly is all Im asking for.. from colleagues and (former) girl friends...
@ Southern Girl... I dont know... theres a lot of time left in this year for more chaos... but things will be ok... :o)
~shoes~