Monday, July 23, 2012

"Lie To Me..."






"It Doesn't Matter Any More..."







What a great song!

Anyway, I digress...

I am feeling foolish... I am feeling gullible... I am feeling naive...

I do not like feeling foolish... gullible... naive...

I think, overall, I'm too gullible... I am too trusting... I tend to believe what others tell me.


Is there a difference between feeling foolish and feeling gullible??

Does one have a more negative connotation than the other??

Upon which party does the onus for a person feeling this way fall?

I am convinced that Charlie Brown was gullible...
whenever he trusted Lucy to let him kick the ball.


We all have people we deal with in  our daily lives that are less than honest with us..


For example, from'The Outlaw Josie Wells,' we have this moment:







*cries*

Does Jesus really think I'M a dumbass this time???
~shoes~


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  1. Miss Stormy "Gumshoe" MarplesJuly 23, 2012 at 3:06 PM

    Lies--

    Foolishness--

    Innocence--

    I'd rather take a chance and believe that people are telling the truth and being honest. Most do--

    There are a few who don't but in the end they really don't matter in our life anyway. Now do they? The ones that lie to us. They hurt us but they don't destroy us.

    I had to white lie to a little girl on Friday (8 years old) but I think it was a good lie. I had to act dumb about what was gonna happen to her dad while she sat with me for two hours. It was not my place to tell her what was gonna happen. That needed to come from a loved one. (aka he was going to jail) When she looked at me with her big brown eyes, I just couldn't tell her the truth even though I knew. So my answer was "I don't know." I wanted her to keep her innocence just a wee bit longer.

    I think my biggest obstacle with this subject is that the men in my life hold onto a bunch of baggage and they wait for me to do to them what the other women in their lives have done to them. That pretty much kills a relationship. Later on, they say I wish I would not have treated u that way. Then it's too late for me to trust them with my feelings anymore.

    I've only turned my back on one person. A family member but she has been lying to me for 40 years. I think it was time to close that door. Don't u?

    StormyDawn

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 3:15 PM

      Hi there...

      I have a family member that messed some of us over a few years ago. I have forgiven her; I haven't forgotten. She will never be in a position to do to us again what she did then.

      There shouldn't be contradictions in Life.

      ~shoes~

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  2. Miss Stormy "Gumshoe" MarplesJuly 23, 2012 at 3:21 PM

    P.S. Every Sunday, I talk to my Dad. He always ask me this question. "What have you learned this week?" He is my compass. My last three months have been hell. People lying to me has been the main issue. And he has kept my spirits up. Asking me to forgive. I don't have to forget but for my peace of mind and soul it is best to forgive. He reminds me of this weekly.

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  3. RobinJuly 23, 2012 at 3:54 PM

    I think it is a bit like this: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. So, only you can answer if the onus was on you. Even so, don't beat yourself up too badly because I think we all have to go there at least ONCE. Just so that we don't do it again. We need to learn that lesson ONCE AND FOR ALL that people who aren't honest one day don't suddenly BECOME honest. It just doesn't happen that way. You either have a moral compass or you don't. Period.

    So, you have to decide how much YOU are worth. Are you worth giving yourself to someone who lies? Giving your heart to someone who has no moral compass? Someone who doesn't share the same moral code as yourself? If you did it once and got a nice stabbing in the heart, but it was oh so good. Meaning that you just couldn't let go of those good times and she just wouldn't let you forget, either, that you had to go for Round Two. And when you turned your back she whipped out that dagger and got you again. Probably wasn't Oh So Good the Second Time Around.

    Those are lessons. We want to believe. Trust me on this: the third time will feel even worse. People do not change. Only in horrific circumstances do people change. When something truly awful happens and change is forced upon them, people sometimes change. Life forces them to see themselves in a new way. Until then... they do not change.

    On the positive side, you are seeing this clearly. Some people go through life living this same scenario over and over. They NEVER get the lesson. What is the lesson? You are worth more. Once you process that and believe it, you will never go back. And YOU ARE.

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 3:09 PM

      Hi, Robin... unfortunately, this has played out over and over a few times. Maybe it's my fault... It does cause one to retreat and make the walls a tad bit higher.

      I hope all is ok and well with you!

      :o)

      ~shoes~

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  4. Steven CainJuly 23, 2012 at 4:31 PM

    Can you be gullible and know it?

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 3:03 PM

      Hi, Steve...

      LMBO...

      I'm not sure... great point on your part. Obviously, it's easier to question after the fact.

      IO guess if we were able to know we were gullible to start with, we might become more jaded and cynical... no?

      ~shoes~

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  5. Introverted ArtJuly 23, 2012 at 6:10 PM

    First, this song is so nice. The chords... but as per the rest of the post. I honestly believe it is a good thing to be gullible, naive. I believe it means you are not completely tainted, cynical. My mom had a fender bender today. Someone rear ended her. She wanted to pull away from traffic and the other driver took off. She was so p*ssed and her words were "I never thought the guy would take off." Sure, you will not let take advantage of you, but I think the shame is on them for being such *ss wipes, not yours for having good morals.

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 3:06 PM

      Hey you... me? good morals?? Wellllllllll.. I'm not sure about that! Ha!! But it is about expectations.

      I hope your Mom is ok...

      ~shoes~

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  6. Green MonkeyJuly 23, 2012 at 9:00 PM

    Shoes! SHOES!!!!!!! I'm crawling my way back.

    Steve has a point...

    but your talkin' to a gurl who likes gullible.

    I've been absent, please forgive me. I've been wallowing.
    Time to catch up! or Ketchup, you decide.

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 3:01 PM

      SPUNKY MONKEY!!!

      I've been keeping up with you... I just haven't had any words of wisdom to send your way... just positive thoughts and all.

      Yes, it is time to ketchup!!

      *huggles*

      ~shoes~

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    2. Green MonkeyJuly 30, 2012 at 6:35 PM

      we have got to grab the ketchup... !!! I have questions that only you can answer ~ intrigued???

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  7. Jack and JillJuly 23, 2012 at 9:44 PM

    We've both been burned in our personal life (though not by each other). Sometimes it's difficult for us to trust others. But generally speaking we do, until we're given reason not to. Once someone abuses that trust, it's pretty much impossible for him or her to get it back.

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 2:58 PM

      Hi there, Jack...

      I agree with that... once I've been burned, it's difficult to totally return to that same place. Doubts are Hell...

      ~shoes~

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  8. AnonymousJuly 24, 2012 at 2:19 PM

    I am very trusting of people and thankfully haven't regretted it yet. I guess I've been one of the lucky ones.

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. Red ShoesJuly 24, 2012 at 2:55 PM

      Hey you... I think your way is better. I'd rather be surprised by things than to be cynical and jaded. There's too much of that in my family anyway.

      I hope all is well with you, sweetie...

      ~shoes~

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  9. Wine and WordsJuly 25, 2012 at 8:11 PM

    You're no dumbass. That's ludicrous. Imagine the world without trust, without early and easy acceptance? Who would be able to forge through such lack towards any gain? I can fault myself for much, but gullible is...well...been there, done that, and I've been done far worse.

    ((Hugs))

    Oh yeah....love me my Johnny Lang!

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    1. Red ShoesAugust 1, 2012 at 7:44 PM

      Me? Au contraire...

      Yeah, all in all, trust is necessary.

      How are you, sweetie?

      ~shoes~

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  10. Mimi LenoxJuly 25, 2012 at 9:13 PM

    I wouldn't use foolish or gullible to describe you. Certainly no naive. The best part is I wouldn't use jaded either. You're self-aware and capable of deep feelings and care, or you wouldn't "care"...got that?

    Dumbass? You? I beg to differ.
    Sorry you're going through this. It's hard to be deceived and disappointed once you've trusted. Been there.

    Feel better.

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    1. Red ShoesAugust 1, 2012 at 7:49 PM

      Hey you... thanks! But I do feel all of those things on a regular basis!

      How are you doing??

      ~shoes~

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  11. RCBJuly 26, 2012 at 2:32 AM

    Nope, you're neither, my friend. And even if you were, so what? We humans have a special gene. If you zoom in on it using a very VERY strong microscope, you will be able to read these words: 'Liar Gene made in paradise'. You hang in there now.

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    1. RCBJuly 28, 2012 at 7:37 AM

      P.S. I'm Blue Bat. (Did that make you smile?)

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    2. Red ShoesJuly 30, 2012 at 7:28 PM

      LMBO!!!

      You know I DID!!!

      ~shoes~

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    3. RCBJuly 31, 2012 at 3:05 AM

      Well, that's always good to hear, Shoes.

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  12. Just Be RealJuly 26, 2012 at 6:05 PM

    Hey Shoes, appreciated your thoughts on my blog the other day, thank you. Blessings to you.

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  13. Cocaine PrincessJuly 27, 2012 at 2:24 AM

    Hmm, quite a thought provoking post.

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  14. LeahAugust 1, 2012 at 5:33 PM

    I love the Jonny Lang song - had it on CD for ages now.

    Hmmmm, I trust quite a lot and wish I didn't. I also wish I could be cynical enough to read between the lines of what people say, or promise to me. Sometimes I'm such a dumb-ass!

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    1. Red ShoesAugust 1, 2012 at 7:51 PM

      Hey you... where have you been??

      I was thinking about you today... are things going ok??

      *huggles*

      ~shoes~

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