So It Goes...
I have a colleague here at Alluvial Flood Plain State University that I consider to be one of my best friends... I went into her office a last afternoon and found her crying... she was working on a financial statement as to how her Life Insurance proceeds would be split among her two children, so as to give them the best financial opportunities possible...
She was diagnosed with breast cancer just a couple of weeks ago, and has been so strong... so brave... I guess even the strongest of us wear down over time...
On a different and separate note, my stalker is back... the married woman that just can't seem to take clear, distinct, and direct messages... this time, she has enrolled in one of my classes. When I saw her name on the class roster, my stomach immediately knotted up... on the way to class yesterday morning, I honestly was on the verge of throwing up... Of course, this really is just a nuisance... a pain in the butt. I can handle this...
I've reassured my friend that she is going to be ok... and that she shouldn't worry about her classes... we can cover them for her. She has surgery scheduled for next week, and then radiation... She just doesn't deserve all of this...
On a different and separate note, my stalker is back... the married woman that just can't seem to take clear, distinct, and direct messages... this time, she has enrolled in one of my classes. When I saw her name on the class roster, my stomach immediately knotted up... on the way to class yesterday morning, I honestly was on the verge of throwing up... Of course, this really is just a nuisance... a pain in the butt. I can handle this...
That's supposed to be a vomit face,
but it doesn't look like it to me...
Anyhoo...
I just don't understand things at times...
I've reassured my friend that she is going to be ok... and that she shouldn't worry about her classes... we can cover them for her. She has surgery scheduled for next week, and then radiation... She just doesn't deserve all of this...
*sighs*
All in all, I'm ok...
It's just my friends that seem to struggle so...
~shoes~
Cancer isn't a prize that goes to the deserving. Or even the ones we think maybe should get it (lol). It just doesn't work like that. In fact, disease doesn't work like that. How could we possibly explain the need for major children's hospitals if sickness, illness, and major diseases were handed out on merit? Nope. Doesn't work like that. It's the random crap that is hardest to digest.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your stalker. Lord knows I don't know what you did to deserve that. I do know that you are TOO NICE. Of course, working with someone makes it tough to give them the "what for" that ~ in this case ~ is so richly deserved. Maybe you can serve her a "shit" cake like in that movie THE HELP. Do you think she would get the message then? Just a thought...
First, much love to your friend. No one deserves a bitch like cancer.
ReplyDeleteAs for the stalker-woman, I don't really have advice, but you can handle it, right? Or does she need to be withdrawn from the class?
@ Robin.. No, you are right. Things like that seem to be rather non-discriminating. No rhyme or reason to it at all... Several of us talked at work later today, and we've decided that we are going to try to be positive with her, and encourage her to stay upbeat... she has two young daughters that need her... We are going to try to be a positive force in her Life.
ReplyDeleteStalker? Crazy Bitch... I've written about her... sheesh...
@ Joshua... Thank you, my friend. She is going to be ok... it just seems that so many around me have endured so much, and all I seem to be able to do is ache for them.
Stalker woman? I can handle it, but she's just been a huge pain in the ass!!!! Argh!!
~shoes~
This is a comment from Annie @ "Quiet Commotion," that for some reason or another, just didn't post into the comments section...
ReplyDeleteAnnie: My best friend Stephanie found out she has stomach cancer about a month ago. Her husband Mike died of cancer last year. I friggin HATE cancer. WTH! It seems unavoidable. It's a long, nasty, dreadful disease and the cure almost seems worse than the bite! I wouldn't tell your friend she's "gonna be okay." You have no crystal ball. But you do have a heart, a shoulder and a sleeve...all of which you readily give. Tell her you will be there for her...all the way. That's all any of us can do.
~ Annie
@ Annie... is the heart, shoulder, and a sleeve enough? I guess when I tell her that she's going to be "ok," that I mean so from more of an overall spiritual sense... but maybe you are right. That's not my responsibility...
Those other things you mention, I can most definitely do those...
Thank you, Ms Annie...
~shoes~
Our thoughts are with your friend. We hope that her treatments prove successful. And our thoughts are with you as well. We hope your stalker takes a hint, and takes a hike.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about your friend, Shoes. I really am.
ReplyDeleteAs for your stalker... well, rule one is don't strangle her. Only in your dreams (well, make that nightmares). I've had my fair share of stalking students, too. One was particularly persistent. I call her Miss Flintstone, because she looks like Fred. Click HERE if you're interested. No wonder you're in need of break already.
Sending prayers to your friend.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend called me on Christmas break to tell me that her dad-in-law has a brain tumor. Over the course of two weeks time since then have found out that it is inoperable and fast growing. Prognosis about a year survival if that--
ReplyDeleteHow do u comfort someone who knows that someone they love dearly is going to pass soon? I know she and her husband will be going through a lot watching him suffer. They are a very close and loving family. I have never had to watch someone suffer in my immediate family. I can imagine though how awful it must feel. I feel for ur friend especially her two young daughters. I know if I were a mommie I wouldn't want to leave my daughters behind that is probably what's toughest for her that very thought. Hope the surgery/radiation is a success for her.
Stalkers--sometimes they are amusing. I have found that they are anyway. Mine have been playful and not harmful to me in anyway. Funny how we are never interested in who is interested in us. That seems to happen a lot doesn't it. And we wonder why we can't find our soulmate. Eventually, most stalkers lose interest when they find someone else to like/luv. Look at the positive side someone likes u a lot. She will pay attention in ur class that's a plus. Hey, at least one interested student this semester.
StormyDawn
@ Jack & Jill... thank you for the wishes for the friend... the stalker just needs to go away... augh!
ReplyDelete@ RCB... Fred Flinstone!! HAHahahahaha...
@ Adsila... thank you so much. I so love the photos you have on your blog of all of the places there in AZ...
@ Marples...There is nothing amusing to me about stalkers... always wondering if they are going to show up on your door step, or in your office... or be waiting for you by you car in the parking lot... absolutely nothing amusing at all about it... blerk...
~shoes~
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. She needs people like you more than ever; she's lucky to have you, Shoes.
ReplyDeleteStay strong.
@ Jessica... thank you for your kind words. You know, all in all, I've been fortunate. My health is good, my energy level is high, and I guess I have that ability to say the right things to people, and that I seem to have enough sympathy and compassion for those who are hurting.
ReplyDeleteI do get worn down from time to time, but, I'm lucky. I'm fortunate.
Happy New Year to you!
~shoes~
Oh shoes I am sorry to hear that. On a good note there are many options when it comes to cancer these days. I'll pray for her I know that it must be hard for you to see her in such pain...darn cancer...Miss ya!
ReplyDeleteI think that being there for her physically and emotionally... she can't ask for any more than that. It's important that she have someone strong in heart and soul to lean on. It's important that she have someone to talk to and lean on. You can be that for her.
ReplyDelete:( I'm sorry - which seems silly to say... cancer is a bitch - no matter it's size/shape or form.
xoxo
robelyn
I'm sorry about your friend. Yes, I know from personal experience that cancer is a bitch of a disease that shows no mercy, it's almost like a malevolent force that eats away at the person l I'm hoping one day there will be a cure......
ReplyDeleteAs for your stalker, sheesh, she's in your class??!! I would be terrified if I was in your red shoes!
Hi there, Princess... I'm not scared, per se... but greatly annoyed. This has been going on now for a few years. I was very ugly with her the last time, and thought maybe that fixed everything... obviously not... *sighs*
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Shoes... me too, me too! I was diagnosed on Wednesday, waiting to meet the surgeon and then another surgeon, etc, etc, etc.... didn't see this one coming. all I can do is write. I do know I will need a mastectomy and chemo, and my cancer appears to be aggressive - so surprise there, it fits my personality!
ReplyDeletelife is.......one big lesson after another. I am learning...
Hey you... I've been over to your blog and I've read... *sighs* I wish I knew what to say... I wish I had the words...
DeleteMuch love always...
~shoes~
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I'll never understand why bad things happen to good people while criminal win the lottery.
ReplyDeleteAs for the stalker, if she talks to you just slip into the conversation that you have erectile dysfunction. That usually squelches any romantic thoughts I may be having about somebody.
Hey you... talk to the stalker? I don't think so... I don't want to do anything to even half way encourage any interaction with her.
DeleteBad things happen to everyone. Blah...
~shoes~
i'm sorry to hear about your friend.
ReplyDeleteas for your stalker, you know i'm even sorrier about that. i can't believe she enrolled in one of your classes!
Hi there, Jaime... thank you. I heard from her tonight.. she had more tests today and has surgery a week from today.
DeleteStalker... blah... just makes my stomach hurt.
I hope all is well with you!!
~shoes~
I had a stalker once & my thoughts to your work mate.
ReplyDeleteHey you... thank you!!
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